When you are coming to this post, you might be thinking that it is too late. Well, winning your wife back definitely is NOT an easy road, especially from the arm of another man. But then there is still a chance, so read on and find out the way before it is too late!
Are you wondering why we say that it is totally possible?
Let me tell you one thing you probably didn’t think of. Most of the time, the reason why spouses cheat is that they feel like their needs are not fulfilled. It is not necessarily because the love is gone. It doesn’t mean that she truly love the other man, but because he makes her feel loved and cared.
This happens especially when couples have become comfortable staying with each other. They are too familiar with life together, to the point that they assume the others would be there no matter what. Gradually, they begin to take each other for granted.
It also means that winning your wife back from another man is not impossible. You can do it, as long as you are willing to act and change your behaviors.
If you are still clueless and don’t know how to start, let us help you.
Ask yourself if you still want her back to your side
Before thinking about winning your wife back, sit down for a moment. Then, ask yourself why you should do so. The shock of being cheated on might have prevented you from considering this at first, but it is really something you should make clear.
Do you still love her and really want to fix all the things that have gone wrong in your marital life? Or maybe you want her back because of the kids? Maybe it is financial problems? Perhaps you just want to win her back because of your pride and ego?
Since your wife is the one who has an affair, the law may support you if you want to divorce. Nevertheless, according to research, many couples were able to mend their broken marriages, even those that were damaged by infidelities. You can also do this, and in fact, you and your wife are the only ones can fix the marriage, provided that you are honest with your own feelings.
Relax and take it slow
Looking at the problem, it definitely is not something you can rush. Thus, prepare your patience and hard work. If you really wish to win your wife back, you should start by pretending like you are okay with the affair. Sounds crazy, right? But it is much better than letting your emotions lead and show her all the negative feelings such as anger and jealousy. Truth be told, if your wife’s act of finding another man is revenge being neglected, it would be a pleasure to see you go mad and depressed.
If your wife already left, don’t force her to return. At the moment, some space is something you both need. Provided that she is still with you, do not try to check her phone, email or social media accounts. I know it could be tempting, but letting your wife have her own time will help her see clearer who is truly the one she can be with.
Consider the reasons why she cheated
During this time, you are also provided an opportunity to think about what happened. What do you think is the reason for your wife to find another man? Did any problem happen before? If any, it might be giving you the hint to see what went wrong in your marriage. According to experienced marriage therapists, long before the act of having an affair or deciding to leave of one spouse, the problem has already arisen within the marriage. Nevertheless, sometimes it might be taken lightly or ignored. As time passes, the urge to get out of the marriage keeps growing bigger and bigger until the spouses feel like they cannot be with their partners anymore. If things have reached this point, it is time you must think about what the problem in your marriage might be.
Keep in touch with your wife no matter what
Even though what you should do now is give her some space, cutting off all contact is the thing you should avoid the most. After all, your goal is winning her back. Stop contacting will just backfire as it shall make her forget about you completely. Stay in touch with your wife and provide help when she is in need. That will be a mature act which can help you gain back respect from your wife.
Use your network of friends and family
Telling the world about how your wife has gotten an affair surely is not a wise move. However, you can seek help from mutual friends and family whom you can trust. Tell them that you still love her a lot and hope she will be back by your side. This act will help your wife know that you are still keeping the door open for her.
Give her the love she needs
After working with many couples, especially those who have gotten married for a long time, I realized one thing: They started to take each other for granted. Perhaps your wife come to another man because you no longer spend quality time with her and don’t make her feel loved. If you truly want to get her back, what you have to do now is give her the love she wants.
Remember, relationship issues won’t heal with time. As you are still willing to make a move, chances are winning your wife back is achievable. Thus, follow our guide and you will find yourself a big help. However, if you still hesitate to act, your chance would be lower with time. Do something before it is too late!